The Story of My Ring Finger Tan Line

For all intensive purposes, I am a successful, single, well-adjusted 24-year-old living in Austin, TX. The current loves of my life are cooking, baking, and my two dogs. Other than that, I only need a few things to be happy: my friends, family, and the miracle of Zoloft.

That last requirement is more of a recent development. You see, everything was going perfectly in my life in early 2011. I graduated with my MBA, landed a great job in my dream city, and had a big, beautiful wedding to a husband I was crazy about. It was even in a magazine.  Before you start jumping to conclusions, I am not a 24-year-old divorcee.  In fact, legally, I was never married!  Yes, I fall into an elite category reserved for the severely wasted, blood related, and royally screwed over.  I got an annulment.

Why, you ask? Well, four months after our wedding, I found a receipt for a hotel room in his name, paid for in cash, dated the night I left for my first business trip. Once I confronted him about that, secrets started pouring out from everywhere. He had been living a double life, whoring himself out on dating sites and using my money to pay for hotel rooms with other women. This had been going on for almost two years by the time I found out.

Most days I do well (thanks to the Zoloft), but I have been using a lot of retail and culinary therapy to get me through. I haven’t been single since I was 18 years old, so my re-entry into the dating world has been…. awkward to say the least.

This blog is to chronicle the story of my journey back to life, and all of the boys, desserts, and impulse purchases along the way. Enjoy and please let me know if you have any more suggestions to help (trash-can throwing is out… already tried and that didn’t go over so well with my therapist).

Here is the ring that gave me that tan line.

Here I am as a blushing bride.

Here are my babies. They like my cooking and tell me I’m pretty. Okay, maybe I make voices for them – but I like to think that’s what they would say.


35 thoughts on “The Story of My Ring Finger Tan Line

  1. Wow. I came by your site via “that precarious gate”.
    All I can say is not all of us are like that. His behavior is sickening and I’ll bet he is deeply insecure internally.
    Good luck
    Peace to you.

  2. singlenocats says:

    This breaks my heart! It makes me feel like an idiot for complaining about my break ups. I can’t imagine going through what you went through. A similar thing happened to a good friend of mine. The whole online dating thing is scary because so many guys stay on it after they get married. 😦 Hang in there! I’m excited to keep reading your posts!

  3. LoveNiki says:

    Wow…. I’m so sorry you had to go through that! Best of luck in life & love!

  4. I’m sorry to hear your ex is an idiot. You obviously are not and deserve much, much, better. That’s kind of the cool thing about life. We think we know what we want and when it falls apart we’re devastated. What’s cool about that? Well, typically, and I will even venture out and say that 99% of the time when something like that happens, it’s God’s way of mucking the manure out of the barn and cleaning it up fresh and new for something better to move in. Good luck to you! Happy I found your blog and will enjoy watching you grow! ~April

  5. Verna says:

    This really suks. You will find a decent guy, don’t worry.

  6. You poor thing. I truly believe everything happens for a reason and you will come out a shining star! I love your blog and can see you have many talents, totally his loss! Best of luck to you.

  7. BrainRants says:

    Sucks this happened. We men are pigs, I know. However, the bright side is you were not so deep into a relationship/marriage that it would have been an epic split.

    Not that I have any illusions this helps in any way…

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  9. That’s awful. My ex was on dating sites and meeting up with other women, too.

    Awww…cute pups!

  10. I’m so very sorry that this happened to you. But you are lucky to be a 24-year old divorcee instead of a 34-year old one like me. Consider it a gift (I know it doesn’t seem like one now) that you found out before committing the best years of your life and bringing children into the world with this man. Good luck, and I can’t wait to follow along with your journey!

    • Amen- so glad I did not have children with him yet. That was actually the reason that gave me the strength to leave him for good: I can deal with the consequences of staying for myself, but I can’t deal with putting my children through anything like this.

  11. Katrin says:

    I feel with you, poor girl! But let me assure you that one day you’ll find your Mr. Perfect who will treat you like a princess – as you deserve it! About 3 years I found out by pure chance that my boyfriend at that time (with whom I’d been living together for over 1 year then) had an about 1-year old son with another woman. I left him immediately – and can now say that this was the best thing that has ever happened to me in my entire life because about one year later I got to know my Mr. Right!
    So, hang on – and thank you for your blog! Love it 🙂

  12. rmv says:

    i’m sorry for the things that happened to you, but look on the bright side…

    i’ll get back to you on that.

    anyway, i found your blog by accident, and i like your “voice,” so don’t be surprised (or annoyed) if you’re seeing random comments from me about some of your older posts. i like to find new writers and crawl through their posts to see what they have to say.

    have a great day,

  13. rmv says:

    also, that picture at the top, those black shoes. are they yours? fabulous shoes.

  14. Oh, I follow your blog 🙂 I have read your posts in the “blogs I follow” section, but never clicked in to your blog. I think you’re a very good writer, It makes me want to read more..

  15. Sammy Emm says:

    Just stumbled on your blog……wow you have been through it….. what a pig…. you are better off without him….you are a great writer and I look forward to reading more. Hang in there and enjoy your life.

  16. 35aweek says:

    How awful! I got divorced when I was 28 (like you, the circumstances didn’t really give me much of a choice), but I’ve since remarried to the most wonderful guy in the world. It might not happen overnight, but it will happen, and you’ll be amazed at your newfound strength and resilience!

  17. Claire Lopez says:

    I had a 3 week marriage annulled. I feel you pain! Hang in there. And be very, very choosy!

  18. ConnieMaria says:

    Oh…my…gosh. 😐

    What a coniving scumbag!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    (On a lighter note it is nice to meet you 😀 Following your blog now. Now you have one more supporter!!)

  19. Your blog is amazing i hope you get through this difficult stage in your life. You are very beautiful and i’m sure one day you will find true happiness. The fact that you had the power to leave him in the first place is huge some of us are incapable of doing so 😦
    im following you and i will share your blog as it is a great read.

  20. I decided to follow this blog, because I think your journey will be interesting…and successful!

  21. Jenny says:

    I’ve nominated you for the Versatile Blogger Award! Click here to find out what to do and thanks for being awesome 🙂

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